From Fear to Flow: Embracing New Beginnings

About Me:

Facing the fear of being seen—or not being seen—has been a significant part of my journey. It's something I’m slowly starting to acknowledge, but I'm determined not to let it define me. As I continue to heal and grow, I’m here, showing up, and choosing not to delete the parts of me that feel vulnerable. If what I share is seen, that's great; if it isn't, that's okay too.

The pandemic turned life upside down, and my cake business, which I had nurtured for 15 years, was put on hold. As lockdowns came and went, I struggled, but eventually emerged with a fresh perspective and a new focus on weddings. With new branding, a revamped website, and a schedule full of wedding fairs, I was ready for a new beginning. 2021 was supposed to be the year.

But life had other plans. Personal and family challenges became overwhelming as I found myself a full-time carer for both parents and navigating the social care system, which I knew nothing about, was a disheartening and frustrating experience. Despite it all, I was determined to keep my business going, so I pushed through as best as I could. Then, I literally hit the ground—breaking my wrist in a fall, which meant no cakes for quite some time.

The stress, anxiety, and overwhelm finally took their toll, and I had a breakdown at the end of 2021 on Christmas Eve of all days! but my mind and body had finally given in after fighting for so long.

2022 was a year of profound loss. My beloved Dad passed away in early January, followed closely by both of my in-laws. I spent much of the year trying to make sense of it all while caring for my Mum, who had finally been diagnosed with vascular dementia. I felt completely alone, and it became clear that if I didn’t start taking care of myself, I would continue to spiral downward. I knew no one could do it for me—no one even knew what I needed, including myself.

In 2023, I made the tough decision to stop taking cake orders. My mental health was suffering, and it was starting to impact my business. I knew I needed to make a change! Over the past year, I've been working on my mental health and exploring spirituality, asking myself deep questions: Who am I? Why am I here? What is my mission? I’ve discovered things I didn’t even know I was searching for and met inspiring people who light my fire.

Now, I’m excited to share that I'm working on a new business. I have a plan, a vision, and instead of hiding in the shadows, I’m putting it out there. I’m trusting the Universe, my inner voice, and my newfound community of soul sisters (and brothers) to help make this dream a reality.

As I prepare to close my wedding cake business at the end of 2024, I’m embracing a fresh start. 2025 is all about new beginnings, new adventures, and new ways of working, and I’m ready for the challenge. Sometimes, you just have to go with the flow instead of fighting against it, right?

Taking that first step into the unknown can be daunting, but it’s often the unexpected journeys that yield the greatest rewards. Over the past 14 months, I’ve been on a personal journey to find my voice, daring to show vulnerability, and building the confidence to speak and be heard. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s been worth it.

When we allow ourselves to explore new opportunities, we unlock a world of potential. Embracing these chances can lead to personal growth, fulfilment, and even more opportunities. So, the next time something new comes your way, give it a try—you might just surprise yourself.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading.

If you're looking to build your Cake Business Confidence, come and join me at 'Caking it Back ~ Cake, Bake & Business Basics' ~ see you there!.

Cheers to new beginnings, losing the fear and finding our flow! x

Dianne Xx